Hey I am new here I'm 22 and my bf, 27, is sittin in county awaiting his plea bargain. He is lookin at the mandatory 5-10 hopefully ran concurrent. We have been off and on for 4 years. Have maintained a friendship this whole time despite his inability to commit. For the past 3 months we have been a couple and everything seemed to be on steady ground. Now its getting close to his deadline for the plea and he seems to be treating me worse than before especially in comparison to his ex wife and baby mother. I have no complications with either of them but he seems to be pushing me away while holding onto them. He told me that I shouldnt wait on him or put my life on hold on Valentines Day yet he sent me a card n writes all the time. I wrote him a letter, it was to the point and honest, yet he wrongfully mistook it for being bitchy as he put it. Made it a point to call me on threeway to tell me that since I hadnt tried to be bitchy to him to not think he was bein an *** to me in his letter. I want to slap the *** out of him so he'd just allow me to love him and be here for him. Not to command me around like i need permission for a booty call. I thought we were better than that but I'm trying to be considerate because I know he is stressed right now. He also says that anytime I mention details or the future of our relationship that I only stress him out further. Its not like I have doubts or am jealous of anything/one. But it helps me to look forward to the future he's not serving time alone but I need just as much hope and love as I continuously give him. And his negativity is beginning to arouse doubt in my heart that he will hold onto this relationship. So does anyone have an idea as to why he insists on being so cut throat with me and what I can do to save this relationship from both of our fears????
Honestly I think you should just cut all ties with him OR at least take a step back! He sounds like he is TRYING to give u a reason to break up with him so he won't be the bad guy! I am 20yrs old and my bf is 19 and although he is locked up we are talking marriage while he is still in
I HOPE U GET THIS... YES I AGREE WITH THE OTHER PERSON... HES WANTING U TO LET GO... DO IT!!!
Holding on for dear life