Hi my name is Rochelle and I have a son in prison in Texas. I know the pain and helplessness this causes in your life so I thought we might work together to help each other. I would like to use this forum to list those of us who have children in prison. I would like to put together a birthday card list each month so please send me your loved ones info. You can send it to me in a PM or post it here if you would like us to send greeting cards. Our problems with having children in prison are different than those of husbands and wives so please help us to form a bond here in this forum.
Bye, Ro
mother waiting for son to stand in kitchen,with fridge door open,,,to hear whats to eat mom?
my son is 38.this is our first experence. it has been a nightmare,for our entire family.i was happy once. my son was happy once.never have i seen nor felt such all consuming pain.try to keep happy face,when we visit. but once out on way back to car,the frustration and the horrid sadness in my suns eyes shred my mothers heart.i would have thayght by now 2yrs. this would come into focus.i'm so full of anger,hate,rage.i know --- im told to let it go but every time i visit and see my sons eyes and the sadness in his voice.it's all like the last day in court at sentencing all over again.may be i need to say good night,am thinking of my boy alone and in pain and i can not help ease that pain.i do not know what tags are??? a mother who waits martha
I too have a son in prison and I know how you feel. I'm scared too death. He has never been in any kind of trouble. This is all new to us. He was sentenced to 6 years on the charge of GUILTY BY ASSOCIATION! Even though they have no proof against him or anyone else for that matter. He was not found on the premises or in the vesinity and sayes he is innocent. The more we fought it the more years they added. I was and am heart broken. He is only 24 and my only son. I am constantly fighting depression. I have noy got to touch my son in 9 months. I too want my son home(bugging me). You are in my prayers.
tammy, im i neb. so i know nothing of texas holding areas. when my son was sent to ours called D&E(detenion and evaluation) they are given thier prison number, and evaluation's guess on the type of personality and crime. the holding time can be 60 to 90 days. then they are placed where they feel is best. but we where allowed to have contact visits. hug an kiss briefly upon arrival and again on leaving holding hands was allowed.we could not wear sleevless vee neck tops,tee shirts with inaproprate logo's know gum chewing,know hoodies.1 baby bottle 1 diaper,babies where searched as well.our place was not to bad very loud tho. but at least i could see my baby-boy(this is my name for him) i wish you well and luck,may angel's walk with you and your family. a mother who waits(martha)
Martha I thank you for sharing your visiting expirence with me. I am the same age as your son, and I also call Daniel my baby boy! He is my only son. I know that when people look at him they see a grown man of 24, but all I see is my baby. I had just turned 14 two months before Daniel was born but I raised him all by myself. And despite all of this I know I did a good job. He was allways a good boy, never gave me any trouble. He has never been in any kind of trouble at all. So I'm sure that you still see your little boy when you look at your son too. Martha there is this prayer site that I go to it's free. prayabout.com. It is a great site, your prayer requast go all over the world. It has helped me so much.
God bless you Martha
Hello,
Can you please help me? My son is in the Byrd unit in Huntsville awaiting to be placed in another unit. When he gets there he will be allowed contact visits. I am looking for someone who can tell me how this will be, what to expect. And yes I am interested in helping in anyway I can. I would not wish this pain on anyone. And we all know that mail is like gold to our children in there. So count me in. Daniel Whitfield 1432682
Byrd Unit
21 F.M 247
Huntsville TX, 77320
April 24th
God bless you.
Tammy
Hello, I have a son in prison in Indiana and this has been and still is a horrible nightmare. I have spent many sleepless nights worried about his safety and well being. Prison gangs are a BIG problem here. My son has been incarcerated since age 18 and is now 21. He has seen other inmates stabbed, beaten and threatened, not only by other inmates but prison employees as well. He is currently being threatened by a prison gang and we (his parents) are being extorted for money. I don't know what to do! Nobody seems to care because in their minds he is nothing but a criminal. He has along time to go and I don't know if I am going to survive the stress.
I have a son who is in a California prison he has been sentenced to 31 years. I still have not accepted it!
Hi my name is Martha(A Mother Who Waits).My son turned 38 nov. He was arrested June 6th. 2006,at his place of work.what a nightmare ever since. was held in jail till court and sentencing.then was given a 10 to 20 yr. possible parole in 5.sentenced Jan 22,07.but given a year already served. was sentenced on attempted sexual assault. Attempted what a injustice.the asumption has destroyed so many lives. Life will NEVER EVER be the same or even close.My son is devestated,depressed and torn apart as he has not been able to see his 13yr. old son nor his 12yr. old daughter since his arrest. His wife has not let the kids visit or recieve his cards. Nor will she alloy any of our side of the family have contact. But right now I do not really care. My concern is for my son. He is my only son,the youngest of two sister's.The court system was a farce, a total miscarige of justice.Know wonder the prisons are over flowing. my son was a hard worker,loved his family,gave his paycheck weekly to his wife. was an avide outdoorsman and fisherman. every spare moment he was out hunting. often taking family.teaching tracking and hunting with bow----wife included.he had little to know time for mischief.He breaks and cries.and pleads with his eyes. I break after I'm out on the way home from visits.Seems my whole existance is now spent in sorrow,anger,hate and for sure know faith in our justice system. (a mother who waits) martha NebraskaForgive spelling mishaps. And missups on the computer it's all new for me.
Oh MY Mary.I'm so very sad for you.How old is your young man,I to have a son incarcerated.10-20yr's.the pain in my heart is as sharp as the ugly razor wire around those cold stone walls.It"s been two years now but feels like a hundred life times. does it not seem others look at us(the mothers) and wish we would just get on with our lives?Iknow others get tired of my tears and sadness.Holidays are pointless to me.Shopping is painful,I see things my son would like.Cooking holds know joy.He'd come over open the fridge and just study the contents,then ask whats to eat Mom? So I stay home read my BIBLE and other books and tend my two dogs .So mary isn't it painful being a MOTHER.Bitter sweet for sure. I will keep you in prayer aswell as your son. ANGELS on our pillows. (a mother who waits) Martha
As I read forms from other mothers it seems we all have the same thing in common - pain and suffering. I too am so full of sorrow, anger, and hate. My life seems gone forever. The constant worry of; is today going to be the day they hurt or kill my son? This is paralyzing me physically and mentally. I can not even go to the grocery store without breaking down. I see my sons favorite cereal and loose it. If I drive past his favorite restaurant I start sobbing uncontrollably. The holidays and his birthday are so very painful. When visiting him I see him becoming someone I don't know. My son was always happy and laughing, making others laugh, he loved to tell jokes.
Another boy who was beaten by a gang was so severally injured they flew him from the prison via helicopter to the hospital, they thought for sure would die. Luckily he didn't die but now has a plate in his head and memory problems. His mother was not notified until 24 hours after this happened. Said it's for security reasons.
I am sorry to hear about your sons case. Yes, our justice system is corrupt.
oh tammy i hope i found what you where looking for about your boys place byrd texas. if you go to prison place--at the top of page there is a bar with names of sites to click on click the word prison.....it will take you to that prison------scroll hunt peck nit pic what ever,,,,it should have all the rules,,,,guide lines,,,the do's and don'ts.i looked up nsp nebraska state prison .....it had everything needed for the visitor as well as what the rules are.......good luck i hope this was what you have been looking for..........sleep well dear friend (another mother waits) we are not alone.( a mother waits) martha
Well here I am again another sleepless night. I am so sick of these feelings! I'm sick of all of this crap! Why is the damn system so unfair? Why do they get to play with peoples lifes like this? I just want to scream. I want my son and my sister out of their hands now. I'm sick of being scared, not getting to sleep, feeling helpless, frustrated, alone, angry, the list goes on and on. I honestly don't think I'm going to make it to the end. I don't think I can take the stress. At times I feel so desperate, it is a consuming desperate feeling, and it just overtakes me and I feel like I can't take anymore. Iv'e lost two people to this JOKE called justice. Only GOD can help me. I must trust in him. I know that one day this will be over and WE ALL will be set FREE! It's been one of those days and I needed to vent. Sorry, but we all have these days. Well I'll try to go to sleep now. Wish me luck. May God bless us all this year. I pray his angels of protection all around all of our loved ones, and strenghth for all of us as well. I trust him!
Tammy Daniel's mom, Tina's sister
Dear Tammy~ How old is your son? How much time was he sentenced to if you don't mind me asking. I have a son in prison too and everyday is a struggle for me. My son has been sentenced to 31 years he is now 24 I am 45 years old and my biggest worry is will i be alive when he is released if i am not what well he do who well be there for him when he walks out those prison gates. I wish i knew what to tell you to make this easier for you I can only tell you what helps me...
What i do is write my son every week sometimes 2 or 3 times. He calls me every week sometimes twice a week and i visit him once a month this is what i do to help myself get by week to week month to month. I have to stay strong and try to keep a positive attitude for him. Tammy you too must stay strong for your sister and your son. I wish you and your family the very best in 2008.
Sincerely;
neverforget