Yes! You are so right, it is the not knowing that will drive you crazy. I think that is one of the worse things about loving someone who is in. Even a week with no word makes you anxious.
Thanks for sharing your experience, it has helped me. I like to know little details because when my baby gets irritated and his complaints all run together then I suspect it is the little things all piled up that is eating at him. I don't take it personal. So when I have insight, I am mentally free enough to be supportive.
Keep doing what you do
NileMusiq