Prison Place

 Now that Tom is thru with Court and serving his 22 months, every so called "friend" of his wants to be my "friend".

What or how much should I let Tom know about? 

Hi,

This definitely sounds like a moral issue to me.  Are you married to "Tom"?  If not your free to do what you want legally and spiritually.  However i personally could not lie to my loved one.  If you are in fact married you need to hold out (pray) that you don't let you flesh take over.  WE all go through that you know.  My husband's best friend who is also married tryed very hard to get me into bed with him after my husband went to prison.  And i almost did!  However i lost my nerve at the last minute and knew that it was wrong..totally wrong!  I am also a Christian woman so i knew that God sees everything and i couldn't hide it from my God.  I had to fight the guy off me several times and now i just have nothing to do with him.  I choose to fight the good fight and remain faithful not just for the sake of my marriage but also for the sake my faith in Christ Jesus...he has a plan you know and it isn't adultry,  But i'm really speaking to you as a married woman.  If you are not married and don't plan on getting married to Tom than you are free to do what you want...it is just a matter of where you stand morally.  Also show Tom respect and don't do his friends!  If you do i would never tell him!  ~~Toni Sevchuk

 Hi Toni,

It IS a moral issue but, not whether I should sleep with them...instead, would Tom be angry enough to do something stupid when he gets out! A couple guys at work have been friendly, and are probably looking for more than just "friendship" but I just want conversation...AT THE OFFICE and AT THE COFFEE SHOP next door, nothing more. And, it is usually 5 or 6 of us together. I am still trying to stay VERY loyal. 

Thanks for the advice....My main concern is that he will mis interpret a situation or think that I am not smart enough to manuver around these silly boys  

Cici

I realize this post is old but i just saw it.  I would like to comment if you dont mind.  The problem with hanging out with fellas from the office is this,,,  eventually you will find yourself in a vunerable spot.  Im not saying your weak or that your looking to cheat, you are human though.

The best advise this old timer can tel you is to simply keep yourself busy with your girlfriends.  NO guy friends, cuz men are men and they will try to take advantage of your situation, even if they say they wouldnt they would,, they are men,,,,,, they think alike,, what might be a hugg to comfort could lead to more.  I know that sounds silly but it is true.

Im sure you are a very smart woman, but even the smartest of women get caught up if they allow thier guard to be down because they TRUST thier friends.

Please dont take offense just replying to your post, and I know you dont know me from Adam, but your in a tough spot, your young, your pretty, and alone right now....  So please dont get offended.