Ok I have been dating this guy for six months and he has been in prison a few time for drugs and drug related crimes. My family keeps giving me crap about it. But he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met he is gentil and he helped me get away from my ex that was trying to kill me. He has been very supportive and he is very understanding. He loves my children. He is just a real down to earth guy that would do any thing for any one. He is off parol and clean for a year. His family is the bomb and they just adore me and my kids. I guess my question is is it really possiple for people to change. Some times I have a hard time trusting if he will ever go back to his old ways of drug using. I have never dated any one like this. and my ex was a phsyco I was with him for 11 years and he is now in prison for trying to kill me and he was abusive my whole marrige. I just dont want to be hurt again but this new guy seems to be some one I would like to commit my self to and I am afraid I am going to push him away if I dont start trusting him more and not looking so much at his past. If anyone has any advise of positive stories i would appriciate it.
Everyone and every situation is different but yes it is possible for people to change if they want to. My uncle suffered from an alcohol problem and he has been clean for 13 years and he is a changed man for the better. But I do understand where you are coming from. My boyfriend of 2 years is now serving a 32 month sentence and each time he went to jail he always said that he was going to stop all the none sense that put him in there but each time he got out it started back again. Now my family doesn't agree with me being with him but he makes me happy so. About a month ago I had a disturbing dream that God told me to break up with him. I tourtured myself over that for a while until I spoke to my pastor about it and my pastor, knowing that my boyfriend is prison now, told me not to worry too much about the dream but to make sure that he is a true Christian Follower and that it is right in my heart. So with that I give you the same advice. Follow your heart. And just like your guy mine suffers from an addiction too, and all I can do is pray for him and us and follow my heart. So do what's in your heart.
That depends on the character of the man and how much God loves him. One can change but he has to WANT to. I used to be a nutcase. Doing drugs till I was all zombied out and outright suicidal. Life or death held no meaning to me in those days. Been in and out of prisons till one day when God helped me out. No other way of saying it. If I was to describe exactly how nuts I was it would probably freak some people out and get the big boys after me. Anyway I changed. Been clean for 15 years now and although no saint, became a responsible family man. Hope this helps.
you know your man and yourself better than anyone. what's your gut telling you? Me personally, my love is currently in prison. if someone had told me in 2006 or even feb.07 I'd be here in Oct 09 in love with a "thug" a convicted felon doing time, I'd thought they were crazy. He went in shortly after we started getting serious. I'm not sure why I stayed, but I do know that my heart just felt free every time I was around him. It still does. Loving someone your afraid is going to break your heart is not easy. I personally struggle with it all the time, even though he constantly assures me I have nothing to worry about. Let go of your past so it wont hender your future.. Except great things, put in good work so you can get good things back in your relationship..
not sure if that's the type of answer you needed, but maybe something you needed to hear..