Hi Summer,
You experience sounds very similar to mine. The system took my son from me on July 3th and he has moved about four times so far. This is all so frustrating and confusing. He got 16 months too and we are hoping for the same, that he will do half the time. He is only 20 and had NEVER been in trouble before. He actually just applied to go to college just before all this happend and now I feel like his life is ruined! Other moms out there, you MUST ask your kids where they are going and ALWAYS know who their friends. My son was with the wrong kids, in the wrong place at the VERY wrong time!
I am wondering how long it takes for visitation approval but I guess it depends on what prison they are in and stuff like that. My son is at WASCO last we heard. We did receive a letter from him and it was TOTALLY like Christmas was here!! I have read that letter at least 10 times and I keep it under my pillow at night. I guess it makes me feel better to know that he touched the paper and so in a bizarre way, I feel connected to him through that piece of paper.
One small bit of information I have learn from all the reading and researching I have been doing that sounds silly but was important to me was that if you send them pictures, you have to put their name and CDC # on the back of the pictures or they will send them back. One important thing I have noticed is that my faith in God has gotten stronger since there is noone else who can really help him at this point but God. My daughter and I pray every night that Jesus will keep his angels around my son to protect him and keep him safe.
Thanks for letting me ramble on...this isn't something you can really talk about to friends or co-workers. Only someone else going through this mess can really relate.
Stay strong and God bless you and your boyfriend.
Mikeysmom