My grandson and 2 grand daughters (5,4&3) daddy got out of prison today after 2 years. He and my daughter never married and we have never approved of their relationship. They both have gotten into some real trouble together and we have never allowed him around. ( He's also married) They say it's because he is black but that is not the reason (if it were we wouldn't have taken care of her and the kids all these years.) We bought a place that had a trailer right behind us and moved her in there (she is 30 yrs. old) She was in prison 7 yrs ago. We try to keep her out of trouble but she doesn't see that.... anyway. She went after him today (about a 500 mile drive) and she has brought him here. The 2 youngest are living with his mom ( they just went and got them) his little boy is so tickled his daddy came home, we backed down and said he could come here to see his son. She is moving him in I guess until he figures out what he wants to do. How do we handle this?? He has never supported them or helped in anyway, nor the government, they have lived with us and up to last mo. we paid every bill (she fianaly got a job at Mc Donalds after we bought her another car). She doesn't want us in any of her bussiness as she calls it and goes into rages if either of us say anything about anything. I'm just worried about how to handle him being here???? Any suggestions. (I really want him to get going in the right direction!!)
It is called Tough Love..
It is your house and trailer that she lives in and you need to let them all know your rules right away. make her sign a rental agreement of some kind and give them both a copy.That way there is no miss understanding and they well know what is expected of them if they are going to be living on your property. Tough love is not an easy thing to do but sometimes it is a must in order for our kids to learn to respect us and responsibilities .
I wish you and your family all the best.
Sincerely;
neverforget