Hello lady and gentleman~ I have been looking for a forum for Mothers & Fathers who are dealing with there adult children in prison and could not find one. I thought I would just post in this forum and see if there is any other parents dealing with the same issues as my self. I feel a little out of place because majority of the people who post have either husbands, wifes or juveniles in prison. Does anybody else feel the same way?
I hope to hear from you soon!
thank you
neverforget
HELLO, YES I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. NOT ONLY IS MY SON DANIEL, HE WILL BE 25 ON THE 29TH OF APRIL LOCKED UP, BUT SO IS MY ONLY SISTER. WE ALL HAVE A TOUGH ROAD AHEAD OF US, BUT IT IS DIFFERENT FOR US MOMS. OUR CHILDREN ARE NOT SOMEONE WE MEET A FEW YEARS AGO THEY ARE OUR CHILDREN, WE GAVE BIRTH TO THEM. I DON'T REMEMBER LIFE WITHOUT DANIEL IN IT.WE ALL HURT AND THAT'S A FACT. I KNOW TOO WELL HOW YOU FEEL. AND TO TOP IT OFF THEY PUT MY SON 528 MILES AWAY FROM ME. BUT PRAISE GOD I'M GOING TO SEE HIM OVER SPRING BREAK. (INCOME TAX TIME. HA,HA!) GOD WILLING AND I'VE CALLED ABOUT THE 4 HOURS SAT.& 4 HOURS SUN TOO. THIS WILL BE MY ONLY CHANCE SO I'M GOING TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT AND SEE MY BABY BOY AS MUCH AS I CAN. WELL I'VE GOT TO GO COOK SUPPER.
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR'S
TAMMY DANIEL'S MOM, TINA'S SISTER
Hi Tammy it is nice to know i am not the only mother here...When my son went off to prison they too sent him over 500 miles from home I was so upset so I know how you feel. He since has been transfered closer now he's about 250 miles away and it takes me about 3 hours to get there. My son is in Pleasant Valley state prison in California.
Hello neverforget,
I to have a son in prison and also over 500 miles away.He is 27 years old and recieved a 10 year sentence.He was sentenced on a drug charge and was put in a maximum federal prison with lifers and deathrow inmates.This to me seemed to be a little excessive punishment.
He will have served his debt to society in a few more years.Just to let you know it dosn't end there.The system makes it so imposible for them when they get out that they usually wind up reoffending and going back.
If that doesn't convince you that crime is a big money business for our politicians and the system then maybe the fact that most of the people in the prison system are between the ages of 20 and 40 years of age,the prime years of their lives.It seems to me that our nation needs an absolute overhaul when it comes to our laws, those whom enforce them and most of all our political system.
Don't get me wrong,I am by no means condoning crime, just the way our justice system handles the majority of it.
The way I see it our justices make it so the families suffer far more than the person that is incarcerated,but of course they wouldn't know anything about that I'm sure.I hope I haven't offended anyone as I am just really fed up with the whole notion of this so called free country,when it is anything but.
A lot of the struggles people face in life are unnecessarily brought on by others in society so I guess what I am saying is that we are all guilty of something and the way things are going we might as well put razor wire around the country and be done with it.
To many dogooders that aren't doing anything but more harm than good.
Almost all of what I vent is my opinion.I just call it as I see it and if the truth hurts them then they have to deal with it.I really get sick of hearing all the sucess stories that people tell when the truth of the matter is they just ain't got caught,if you know what I mean.If you don't get where you are by birthright or win the lottery then big odds are you didn't come by it honestly.
It just really rags me when you know you got big name political figures that are as corrupt as the day is long but do you think when they get caught that they spend a day in prison,no they have amunity,and that is the biggest crime of all.
Yea maybe we do need to get tough on crime,just the right kind.We need marters and robinhoods.That is where the real meaning of hero comes from.
Well I guess if nothing else I have made for some reading so you all take care and I will keep you in my thoughts!
Stay well and strong
Skywalker
Hello skywalker~ I agree with you 100%. I do not know much about the Fedral prisons but they seem to be just as messed up as the state prisons.
Hello! My son is 31 years old and he has been in and out of prison since he was 18. It still hurts...I miss him and seeing him every 6 weeks or so isn't the same as having him around...but, it has been so many years since he started all of this, that I almost forget what it was like to have him home all the time. I don't worry about him like I did when he first went in. He's a big guy and can take care of himself. But you know what never goes away? The worry about when he comes home. I used to say, oh this is it.......he wont go back again after this time. Then he would go back...then I would say, Oh he won't go back again.......then off he would go again. I have learned that I can not expect anything...meaning I can pray for him, encourge him, support him and love him when he gets home, but I can't do it for him. I can make sure he has a place to live, and all the help to succeed that I can give him, but I can't do it for him. I have learned to not blame him when he screws up. He knows that he screwed up and he doesn't need anyone harping on him about it. I let him talk and I listen. I advise him and let him know the ways he could stay out of prison, but I don't harp on him. I also do not let him bring any of his criminal activity or bad habits into my home. He knows that he can't bring that into my life and that helps to keep ties with us (his family) from being destroyed. Having an Adult child in prison is a helpless feeling. You can't order them to their room and keep them away from the rotten people they hang out with. You can't ground them.........All you can do is support, encourage, love...........and don't let them bring their lifestyle into your life. It is very hard to support, encourage and love when your child is bringing you and your family into their crazy world.........anyway, good to see a forum on this subject.
My son has been sentenced to 31 years and I guess my biggest worry for him is what if i am not alive when he is released. Were will he live and who is going to hire a man who has been out of the work force for that many years. I just pray that his appeal comes through and they take some time off his sentence.
My son too has been in the system since he was a teen. when the state step in started telling parents they can not deiscipline (spank) there kids because it is abusive only made matters worse . I am talking about a spanking on a kids butt not beating a child there is a differance I am not saying its ok to beat a child but a good spanking in my opinion is better than sending a child to juvenile hall or to a youth prison!
Hello, I wanted to check in with ya'll and see how everyone is doing. I hope eveyone had a good weeknd. I had a pretty good weekend I went to the beach with my husband, youngest son, grandpa even our dog went too. The weather was nice we walked and had lunch (fish & chips yum-yum) I hope ya'll have a nice week.
Hello KonaKoffee~ I tried to find the federal Facility in lompoc, Ca do you know the name of the Facility?
I am glad you finaly heard that he is o.k. My son is in a state prison Pleasant valley in Coalinga Ca the visiting rules seem to be much simpler then federal prisons. Please keep me posted I wish your family all the best
God Bless
FCI Lompoc link.... http://prisonplace.com/forums/t/64.aspx
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