They do the crime and we do the time too, but ofcourse the inmate doesn't seem to see it like that. Why? if your husband is anything like mine,then its because he is selfish. They will never understand until they have to stay out here alone with no family, friends,or money and cring babies and children that don't know why daddy isn't home from work. To me the best punishment for alot of them would be to do there time listening to there wives 24/7 over and over with babies cring in the background, and the older kids fighting over something.But that would never work eather cause they're not going to change their ways till they get ready to. So why do we Love these fools. Maybe cause for the most part they're good guys, when they're home! After 20 years marriage to the same man, I can honestly say I do still love my husband with all my heart. Yes it's hard for them to be locked up, but they don't have to worry about am I going to run out of gas taking the kids to school?{yes it happened} Nothing worse than running out of gas ablock from the highschool with a princess teenager aboard. Or do they worry bout that beautiful little girl they produced, having to sleep in the car for aweek till mom gets a pay check. Or what about the having to give away your childs dog cause you have to move from a big 4brd house on 2 acres of land ,to a small nasty appartment cause mama don't make enough money like daddy did when he was home. But being the good wives we are we don't tell daddy all the war stories cause we don't want to make it any harder for them then it already is. Anyway I could go on and on but got to get ready for work so i can provide for what Daddy can't. The way I see it is I look forword to his homecoming some day. Then we can remonice over the hard time. "What don't kill us will only make us stronger." Just love him the best you can and keep your head up.
Have a great day, Susan
Coming from the inmate side... t is nice to understand what some of you go through. Wjile I agree that maybe it isn't the best time to tell them all of this stuff while they are still inside, I do think it is neccessary for you to tell them exactly what you went through and what it cost you when they return home.... I wish all of you the best of luck
JP
I am so happy that i got to read your message. I have been thinking i am the only person feeling pissed off. I see these wives at visisting day all smiles spending their probably gas money on a four dollar hot dog. And i read all these messages about how sad everyone is. It makes me feel bad because, i am sad,and i do love to see my husband,but i'm mad. I have been doing this for over nine years. I was only 24 when he went. I feel cheated. We are in prison just as much as they are and they have the nerve to b*tch. I love him i made the choice to stay, and i will make it until he walks out of there.
But dang i'm out here with a son who has his daddys adhd. One income, sleeping alone, and paying for visits and phone calls. Listening to the i told you so's. Watching the pitty looks you get when someone hears your husband is in prison, or better yet the way they act after they know, like your stupid for ever waiting or like they have to lock up the silver. I have never seen the inside of a jail cell nor will i ever.
You don't know love untill you have loved a man in prison. I miss him everyday and i need him even more. His son is growing up alone. I'm growing old alone. I don't even know what its like to be married and i have been married nine years this year. I got to get married in the county jail...again my choice but after he made his, and i really had no other choice. That makes the pitty looks and the oohh she's stupid looks even better.
The saddest thing is this little boy who never had a say. Never got to make his choice. Who has more of a chance to end up dead,or in jail then the kid setting next to him in his third grade class based only on the fact that his Dad is in prison. Who doesn't only have to face the normal problems of this messed up world, but has to over come the sins of his father too. Yet he puts a smile on his face when his mom gets out there and trys to play Dad. That sadness for him turns to anger in me so what does it do in him? Just mad ,happy to see i'm not the only one sometimes i feel like everyone else is better at this then i am.....the whole prison wife thing. Maybe i'm not doing such a bad job.
Just know you are doing agreat job, and anger is part of it. It seems like every other day some kind of situation comes up and makes me think what was I thinking 20 years ago when I said I DO. Today is one of those days. I'm so mad I could sit nails. Lets just say I.R.S. Yea it sucks. Its a good thing I have time to cool off between now and Oct. I hope your day is going better than mine today.
Sorry to hear your day was so bad. Is Oct. when you are going to see your husband next? Mine wasn't so bad another call from the Teacher at my sons school. I wish i could find a school that deals with kids who have adhd, because public schools just don't. No kid left behind, yeah right! Has your husband been in the whole 20 years? I hope your day has gotten better and remember there is always tomorrow. For me a four day week end no school woohoo!! School has got to be bad when the parent is waiting for the week end. I'm not so mad today it helps to be understood...Thank you
Good morning Danielle, How are you today? It's Sat. Big deal! can't go visit this weekend cause they moved him to the Lablance Unit Beaumont Tx Feb. 11. Which adds 2 hours drive for us. So with gas through the roof it will be awhile before we can go. He has only been locked up this time since April 07. and gets released in Oct 08. Thank God. Don't think I could handle it,if he had to stay there the whole 7 years they gave him in the first . I can only imagin how hard it is for you ladies who do have to wait longer for there man to come home. My heart and preyers go out to you and your families.
No he hasn't been locked up all 20 years of our marriage. but sometimes it does feel like it cause he works in tha oilfield and travels alot out of town. But its nice sometimes cause if we were together 24-7 I know I would lose the rest of my mind.ha As much as I love that crazy man I need my space sometimes too. I just hope he has his priorities in better order this time, but if not I guess we'll be doing this again someday. Whatever I'm here till the end. Death do us part.
I'm glad I only have one more child in school. She graduates this year. As a matter of fact, she just left to go take her S.A.T. test today. No worry for her she has a 4.0 grade average. We are very blessed with smart children. Our oldest is 26 and married. No grandchildren they're yet. Darn! Then we have a daughter 24 she has 2 beautiful little girls. and then we have a son will be 20 next month. I have to brag on him. He's the best. mamas little helper. (not so little anymore 5'10) Thank God he can drive.I love being taxied everywhere. ha You'll love it to when they can drive.
so far so good on the stress level today. hope yours is as good as it can be in this waiting game. I don't remember where you said your husband was. Does he have a release date anytime soon?