Prison Place

 Why do they always think they can continue to controll us. They do a great job by saying they will call on a certain night, then never do. You don't know how many times I have heard the excuse about lockdown, phones being broken, or the schedule was full. Seems that whenever he needs anything he can get a phone!

I feel you on this.  My husband has been locked up for 9 months and still expects me to sit at home and wait for him to call.  I have a life and a child to raise and I wont sit at home and feel sorry for myself.  I just cant do it.  I know it is hard for him to be locked up and not know what is going on here, but honestly he put himself right where he is, so he has noone to blame but himself. 

Amen Sister! You said all. As much as we miss the fools they think it's all apiece of cake out here. Obviously they're still as crasy as they were when they landed themselves in prison.What makes them think we have nothing better to do than wait. Sorry life goes on. Yea I tried the phone calls home but after the bill went sky high that was the end of that. So now he has to wait on me to make that long drive to visit if money allows. After all I'm sure none of us are welloff, thanks to the men we married.

                                                                               Susan

I dont think they are trying to be controlling, I think they are stuggleing to hold on to whatever they can on the outside.  Yes, they put themselves there, but ladies, its our duty to support them.  IF you didnt go out before he went in you shouldnt go out now that is in!  No one says you have to sit by the phone and wait for them to call you, or stop your life,,, no of course not, but as thier wives we do owe them respect still, remember they are getting none of that inside.    This is no farris wheel ride for these guys, Prison strips you of your dignity, your self esteem, and your life basically.  My husband may have put himself in there, but as his wife i owe him respect.  IF that means still having him make some decisions in the home so be it, what does that hurt. 

I have a life too, but I make sure he knows he is my world and that no matter what he can depend on me.  Dont think of thier controlling issues as a way of belittling you,,, no, they need to feel in control because it is all stripped from them by the system.