Suzy, I have a son in prison.  I love him dearly but I also know who he is.  My son has several young ladies thinking they are the only one.  I keep telling him that he can write letters to these ladies but don't make them think they are the one.  It's so bad that the young ladies call me and I have to be very careful what I say to them.  My son also informed me that he was going to try to marry one of these ladies so he could get conjugal visits.  So Suzy, the bottom line is, I will bet money on you not being the only one.  There is nothing wrong with having a pen pal in prison, but to start a relationship, is down right crazy.  He probably has lots of girls he writes and the one that is still around is the one that he will move in with when he gets out.  Then the real trouble starts.  You will have to take care of him due to the fact that he won't be able to find a job.  Girl, be a friend, nothing more.    Relationships are a two way street.  If a man can't do anything for you, you don't need him.  And I know he can't do anything while he is locked up.   Just a friendly observation!

i have husband in ware state prison he has 2 more years to go dont listen to orther people me and michael met through letters and phone now we are in love recently got married dont give up if its met to be dont give up need a friend i will be your friend

wow..u took me way back! i was dating a guy for about 6months back in 05 i fell for him bad i was 19 at the time too. it was like love at first sight. but the unfortunate happend. He got locked up on on november of 05 so i was lost. He got 5 years and since we got along so well, i didn't know how things would end up. I didn't think he would ever look for me. but he did, he would call me from jail every day. this was   was meant for me. so i told him i wanted to be with him and i would wait for him. so here i am and he comes home next year. All this time i have been there for him, i got to meet his mom and his family while hes been locked up. so i know thats a good thing. Eventhough alot did happen during these years. like my ex coming back and me having mixed emotions but i love my man to much to let him go.Girl all i can tell you is do what u think is right and time will tell. LIke they say "Good things come to those who wait".

Hello Suzy I just got married to my man who I met while  he was locked up. It all started with letters & phone calls.  I truly believe he is an amazing man.  He has never asked me for nothing but my love.  I talk to lots of women who r in love with an inmate & thier men are asking them for all kinds of things like money & packages.  I do believe its possible to find true love in prison however there are some rotten men in prison u have to be very careful and have a good sense of people !  If your friendship/ love is true he wont be asking u for stuff.  I have a good number of friends in prison & i have delt with some real humdingers writing me letters asking me for stuff & I tell em flat out I don't do it for my man I ain't doing it for u !  It is very hard & gets very lonesome at times.  U have to be very strong willed !  If u have any questions please feel free I will give u all the input I have !!  Just be very careful !!! Good luck!  

Well I have a friend who is in jail and will be out  4 more years. We keep in contact through letters and calls and well, at times it seems like he wants to start a relationship with me but I refuse to. I love this guy a lot, but i do not want to devote to a long distance relationship, because I find that very hard. And, I am currently in a 1 year relationship that I started a few months after he was sent to jail,  I have not told  my friend in Jail because I do not want to hurt him I want to be there for him during these hard times but i do not want a relationship with him, at least not    until he gets out.

Suzy, think about this. I am worried for the both of u. To choose to love a man in prison is a full time job, with little or no reward.

I fell in love wit my penpal, we have been together 2 years and his out date is 2025. I love and support this man. my heart is behind the wall with him. AndI feel often that I can't do this but he needs me so I need him. I have found a new perspective in my life. .We have never been alone.But i am stimulated in my mind in an unbelievable way.

I want to know the books he reads,his story, his dreams.

Like with any relationship u run the risk of losing yurself. I have turned this into a passion following issue that I never thot of be4 if u choose this man learn, grow, be creative.

I have a whole biz, cuz I love to send cards so I make them.

i rambled on I guess to say Is 4 years long enuff b4 2 people KNOW each other?

Watch the movie "Letters from a Serial Killer" really good suspence thriller starring Patrick Swayze.